Holiday stress seems inevitable during the holidays. The holidays can be a time of great joy and excitement. They can also be a time of worry and anxiety. There are so many worries that can cause holiday stress. Will there be enough money to pay the bills and buy the gifts? Will they like the gifts I sacrificed for to be able to purchase? Who will be at the party? Does my house look pretty enough? Do I look pretty enough? Will she try to corner me with questions again about my lack of boyfriend/husband/children? Will they try to treat me like I’m still twelve years old? What will they think? What did she mean by that? The list goes on.
There are so many opportunities to experience holiday stress. It can get so bad that it can give you a headache and make your tummy hurt. You can feel so overwhelmed all you want to do is lock your door and stay home in your jammies with your Christmas movies. It’s enough to leave you speechless wondering what just happened.
It’s natural to have holiday stress…
I was tempted to stress about Christmas shopping this year. Our grandchildren have several sets of grandparents. Another grandma let me know a few things she was going to give our granddaughter. She said this with the sole purpose of letting me know so we wouldn’t give the kids duplicates of things. I appreciated the fact that she let me know and reached out to me.
I was tempted to be anxious that I/we wouldn’t give our grandchildren the amount and type of items she was giving them this year. I had chosen practicle items that would benefit their physical and educational needs this year. After spending time with another set of grandparents who showered them with gifts, would they appreciate what we would give them? Would it even be worth their time to drive to our house to collect their presents?
Holiday stress is easy…
It seems easy to focus on holiday stress. These thoughts seem to come naturally. It’s easier to think negatively at every turn and wonder what her motive for saying that was or what he meant by that. It seems easier to think that way, but it’s really not. Negative thoughts drag us down. They don’t allow us to cultivate positive relationships. They get in the way of our peace which gets in the way of our creativity.
I could have wondered if the other grandma had some kind of motive for telling me some of the items she bought. I could have, but I didn’t. I decided to take her at her word that she told me so our families wouldn’t give the same things. She was thinking of the grandchildren, and so did I.
Say “No” to holiday stress
Instead of allowing myself to experience this type of holiday stress, I decided to set my thoughts higher. I decided to appreciate the fact that our grandchildren have so many people who love them. I decided to be happy that they would get so many awesome gifts. That they certainly wouldn’t go without. This decision helped me to enjoy the act of shopping for them. Knowing that our gifts to them were part of a bigger picture of gifts and warmth and love. They got to go to at least three homes where they found love and celebration. They were so blessed, they don’t know where to put it all. We got to be part of that.
By deciding to take on a higher mindset, I was able to be at peace and enjoy their visit. I was able to say “No” to holiday stress. I wasn’t fretting about whether or not they would like our gifts to them. Instead, we were relaxed and had a fun time. Value was seen in each gift. Each gift had a purpose and was appreciated. Our visit together was sweet. It was an enjoyable moment of semi quiet relaxation in the midst of a hectic time of parties and people. It was a time of blessing and security. Holiday stress was successfully banished!
Trust And Rest Instead of Holiday Stress
When we trust in the Lord we can truly rest. We can be confident in him. There are great riches in his presence. He has made our home a home of peace and healing. That happens when we trust and rest in him.
We have a choice everyday, every minute to trust in the Lord. This doesn’t only work to fight off holiday stress. We trust in the Lord daily to maintain peace in every situation. When we trust the Lord, we experience gifts that cannot be purchased by money. We experience gifts that can only be attained in his presence.
Join me on this journey of trusting in the Lord with holiday stress and everything else. Choose daily to give your worries to him. Watch God’s beautiful plans for you unfold.
Please let me know how you are doing on your trust journey with the Lord. Please comment on this blog post. Also, feel free to ask questions.